About TakeMYHand

TakeMYHand is divorced and is seeking males for friendship or a serious relationship.

🌱 COMPATIBILITY — EMOTIONALLY SAFE LOVE FOR 2026.

I’m choosing peace and safety.
Not excitement.
Not potential.
Not chaos.

This isn’t about job titles, money, or status. It’s about how someone shows up inside a family. My children and I need emotional regulation, consistency, accountability, calm energy in the home, and safety without control. Anything that disrupts that isn’t compatible with our lives. Over time, I’ve noticed certain job roles are more likely to attract people who already live these values patterns, not promises.

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Job Roles That Often Align With What My Family Needs.

Teachers, SEN specialists, autism or behaviour support you understand that behaviour is communication, routine creates safety, and patience is an active skill.

Emotionally healthy social workers or early help practitioners you understand safeguarding, boundaries, accountability, and responsibility. You don’t minimise harm or avoid difficult conversations.

Healthcare professionals (nurses, paramedics, therapists) you stay grounded under pressure, understand exhaustion and care, and don’t panic when things get hard.

Engineers, software engineers, data analysts (emotionally developed) — you bring logic, steadiness, and consistency. You don’t thrive on drama.

Compliance, quality, or risk professionals you understand rules exist for safety, not control. You think ahead and take responsibility seriously.

Project or operations managers you plan, follow through, and don’t live in last-minute chaos.

Tradespeople with emotional maturity you show up, fix things practically, and value effort over talk.

Creatives with structure you bring warmth and depth, grounded by boundaries and emotional responsibility.

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🚫 What My Family Does Not Need

Emotional instability. Unpredictability
Chaos Ego. “Go with the flow” energy. I’m not choosing excitement. I’m choosing peace, warmth, and steadiness for me and my children. No bullshit.

🎬 FULL DIRECTOR’S CUT — ROMANTIC EDITION

Please read this properly. Not skim-reading. Not half-reading while bored. Not scanning for loopholes. This isn’t a challenge. It’s an invitation to the right man. I’m not here to pass time, collect attention, or entertain emotional maybes. I’m here because I’m open to real, grown-up love the kind that chooses intentionally, shows up consistently, and builds something meaningful and lasting. Love that feels steady and soft at the same time.
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Height: You must be taller than 5’9, This isn’t about ego, status, or superficial standards. It’s about how I feel in a man’s presence. I’m a tall woman, and physical compatibility matters. I want to feel held, grounded, protected, and able to fully relax not brace, not compensate, not shrink myself. That sense of safety is important to me, and I won’t apologise for knowing what helps my body and nervous system feel at ease. These aren’t demands. They’re clarity. I’ve done chaos. I’ve done compromise at my own expense. I’m choosing compatibility, safety, and calm and the right man will understand that this isn’t exclusion, it’s alignment.
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No recent, clear photo = no reply.
No profile photos at all is a red flag on its own.
Not “I’ll send one later.”
Not “I look the same.”
No WhatsApp negotiations.

This isn’t Guess Who. I don’t engage with ambiguity, excuses, or people hiding behind outdated images. Transparency is the baseline. If you can’t meet it, you’re not eligible for access to me.

No married men. No “it’s complicated.” And if you resemble Shrek — even on a good day we’re not aligned. Let’s save each other the time.

I value confidence, accountability, and showing up exactly as you are now. If that standard makes you uncomfortable, that’s already your answer.
Boundary set.
Decision made.
Next.
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🚫 What I’m Not Here For

I’m not your babe. I’m not here for “fun. And I’m not “going with the flow”. I value clarity, effort, and emotional intelligence. If your opening line is: “How’s you? “What are you looking for?” “Want some fun?” “Let’s see where it goes” Please don’t message me. That already tells me we’re not compatible. I’m a mum. I’ve lived real life. I don’t do vague, low-effort chat or men who don’t know what they want.

🚗 The Practical Bits (With Heart)

I’m drawn to a British man, taller than me, very local, who can drive not because of status, but because presence matters. I want someone who can arrive. Someone who turns up, plans a date, opens the door, and says “I’ve got you” without making it heavy. I like real dates. I like effort that feels natural. I like knowing I’m wanted not fitted in. You must live alone, in your own place. Not from judgement but because independence is romantic. I’ve already raised children. I don’t want to raise a grown man. I want an equal someone who stands beside me, not behind me or leaning on me.

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Age: 36–52
Location: Local preferred.

If you’re not local, you must be financially secure and able to travel freely able to get up and go on any day without stress, restrictions, or excuses. I’m going to say something most women are pressured to soften, joke about, or hide.
I want one more child. Not because I’m chasing a fantasy but because part of my motherhood was taken from me.

When my girls were babies, I wasn’t living. I was surviving. Fear, control, and chaos stole moments I’ll never get back. I loved them fiercely, protected them with everything I had but I didn’t get those early years the way a mother should. That grief doesn’t disappear. It settles in the body.

I’m pre-menopausal. My body knows what time it is. My heart does too. This isn’t panic or desperation it’s truth. And I won’t silence that ache, replace it with a dog, or pretend it doesn’t exist just to seem more “relaxed” or convenient.

I won’t have a baby with the wrong man. But I won’t pretend I don’t want one either. Family matters to me deeply. I have my girls, and they are my world but they’ve watched me carry everything alone. I don’t want “just us against the world” forever. I want them to know what it feels like to be held by a wider family.

I’m drawn to a man who comes from a big, loving family because I value connection, stability, and shared care. Parents who show up. Siblings who stay. Aunties, uncles, grandparents. Sunday dinners. Warm homes. A life that feels full not just strong. I want that for my girls.
And I want that for myself. This isn’t light. It isn’t casual. It’s intentional.

If this scares you, we’re not aligned. If it hits you somewhere deep the place where responsibility, love, and instinct live then maybe you’re the kind of man who understands what it means to choose a woman and the future she’s trying to build.

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💍 The Big Stuff (Romantic & Real)

I’m open to marriage and one more child not as fantasy or pressure, but as a hope rooted in reality. I believe in building something slowly, intentionally, with trust and tenderness. I want love that grows not fireworks that burn out. If commitment scares you, that’s okay. Just don’t seek comfort in my arms while avoiding responsibility. I’m not interested in: “Separated on paper “Technically single” Healing on me I want a man who has done enough inner work to be emotionally available not running from intimacy.

❤️ What I Love (This Is the Romance)

I love consistency the quiet kind that feels like safety. I love calm energy the kind that lets my nervous system rest. I love affection: hand-holding, reassurance, closeness that doesn’t disappear when things get real. I love deep conversations late at night and comfortable silence in the morning. I love laughter, soft laughter, belly laughter, silly laughter. I love masculinity that feels protective, warm, and emotionally safe. I want to feel chosen. I want to soften because you’re steady. I don’t want to decode love. I want to live inside it.

🌿 My Life & the Love I Want to Share

I live a simple, meaningful life. Slow mornings. Warm evenings. Flat whites and good coffee dates. Cooking and sharing food (especially curry). Music that makes you feel something. Walks, fresh air, hand-holding. Deep conversations about life and meaning. Cosy nights in, films, laughter. Writing, reflection, creativity. I want a love that slips beautifully into everyday life — cups of tea, quiet looks across the room, shared routines, inside jokes, and knowing glances.

👨‍👩‍👧‍👧 Family — My Heart Truth

This part matters deeply. I didn’t grow up with a safe, loving family or a village around me. No Sunday dinners. No sense of belonging. I built my life without it and I’m proud of my strength. But I’m honest enough to say this. I want my last opportunity to build that kind of family. Warmth. Familiar faces. A real sense of home. I want my girls to grow up surrounded by love, laughter, and people who show up. That’s not desperation. That’s hope grounded in reality.

💚 Green Flags That is Romantic to Me

You communicate clearly and consistently. You make plans and keep them. Your presence feels calm and safe. You’re affectionate You respect boundaries naturally. You’re confident without being loud. You lead gently and listen deeply. You like children and understand they come first. You value family and long-term love. You make me feel chosen, secure, and at ease. If this feels warm instead of confronting that’s alignment 💚

🚩 What Breaks the Spell.

Confusion disguised as mystery. Hot-and-cold behaviour. Avoiding commitment. Disappearing acts. Love-bombing without follow-through. Chaos framed as passion. Disrespect masked as humour. Making me feel anxious or unsure.Love should feel safe, not unsettling.

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I fled domestic violence in 2022. After three years of private court proceedings, breaches of a non-molestation order, and having to move again in September to keep my children safe, stability is non-negotiable. That’s why my profile is direct. It’s not attitude it’s lived experience. I don’t have time for games, chaos, or emotional immaturity. I’m officially divorced (since last year) and emotionally clear. My children and I now have a safe, settled home. We have space for one emotionally mature, grounded man who understands boundaries, values peace, and wants something real. If you’re consistent, calm, honest, and ready to build something steady we may align. If not, that’s okay, but this won’t be your place.

🛡️ Final Word (Romantic Truth.

I’m not difficult. I’m not demanding. I’m ready. I’ve learned my lessons. I’ve healed enough to know what healthy love feels like. I have children. I don’t have space for emotional guesswork or unfinished men. I’m not asking for perfection. I’m asking for presence, tenderness, consistency, and courage. If my clarity feels like pressure, we’re not aligned. If it feels like relief you might be my kind of man. If this filters you out, that’s okay. If it draws you in, say hello 💚

🤍 Charlie 🤍

What do you like most about where you currently live?

Probably the fact I’ve got everything I need in walking distance Costa, Greggs, and a charity shop treasure hunt on every corner. And the neighbours already know my girls are feral, so there’s no point pretending anymore. 😄🤣

What do you enjoy most about your current job?

Honestly? The best part is the flexibility. I homeschool my girls, so I need work that doesn’t chain me to a desk and it means I still have time for good conversations… maybe even with you. 😉

What are your favourite leisure activities?

Hobbies? Flat whites, surviving my girls’ K-pop karaoke sessions, scooters flying past my ankles, spontaneous adventures, and pretending I’ve got my life together. 😄🤣

Where in the world are your favourite places?

My favourite places are the seaside, peaceful nature spots, cosy cafés… But honestly, the place I’d love most is somewhere I feel safe your heart and your soul.
That’s the real destination.

Where in the world would you love to visit?

Places that feel like freedom the sea, the countryside, peaceful walks. And the Northern Lights… that’s the place my soul wants to stand under at least once in this lifetime.

What would you do on an ideal date?

A quiet place, warm drinks, no distractions… just two people talking about life, dreams, fears, and futures.
A date that feels like a spark and a calm.

What are you looking for in a partner?

A man.
Not a project.
Not a walking red flag.
Not a part-time “good morning” texter.
A proper man with loyalty, depth, and intentions that match mine. 😄

What makes a good relationship?

A good relationship is built on emotional safety, communication, respect, and shared values.
It’s two adults working as a team, not fighting as opponents.

What makes you laugh?

Unhinged humour, dark jokes, sarcastic comments, and people who can handle my chaotic energy without getting offended. 😄

What music do you like?

My taste in music says it all I crave depth, vulnerability, and truth. From Lady Gaga’s raw soul to Metallica’s edge, from the poetry of “The Sound of Silence” to the ache of “November Rain” I want what’s real. If music moves you like it moves me, we might just be singing from the same songbook.

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🎶 Playlist Name Options:

Rain in November, Fire in My Chest

Die With a Smile, Love With a Scar

Soul Songs for the Beautifully Broken

Stay — I Missed You, Always

Love Come, Hurt Gone

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🖋 Poetic Version:

I want music that hurts a little —
a voice that cracks,
a lyric that lingers.
Give me Adele’s ghost,
Gaga’s thunder,
Capaldi’s shiver,
Metallica’s storm.
I don’t play background songs —
I play testimonies.
And I feel them,
louder than the world ever listened.

What has been the highlight of your life so far?

Despite It All

There were moments when the darkness felt endless.
No hope. No future. No clear way forward. And still. I held on. Not because I was brave but because I had no choice.

I fought quietly, painfully, for a life I couldn’t yet see.
I knew the journey would be cruel. That it would take pieces of me. That it would be lonely, slow, and full of heartbreak. Like a caged animal with no escape, I waited. I endured. I shrank myself to survive.

Until one day, I didn’t wait anymore. I left. With two toddlers. A double buggy. A few bags. And fear so loud it lived in my chest. I walked into the unknown and for 18 months, we had no home.

Just temporary places, borrowed safety, and nights where I lay awake listening to my children breathe, wondering if I’d done enough. if I was enough. But I didn’t give up. Because when everything else is gone, courage isn’t loud or heroic.

it’s raw, shaking, and done anyway. I fled domestic violence in 2022. That was the beginning of our freedom. Not an ending. Not a miracle.

Just the first step. We’re still healing. Still learning what safety feels like. Still adjusting to a life where peace doesn’t vanish overnight.

And now. my dream is simple. Not grand. Not dramatic.
Just real. To find my best friend. Someone who understands silence. Someone to sit beside in the quiet moments.

To laugh with. To rebuild with gently, slowly, honestly.
That would be my new highlight. That would be my happiness. Not because life was easy but because despite it all, we survived.

What are you looking forward to in the future?

A future with peace, real love, loyalty, emotional maturity, and no more walking red flags pretending to be men. 😄🤣