About Jen1409

Jen1409 is single and is seeking males for friendship or a serious relationship.

So... apparently I'm dating again. This is terrifying. 😂

I'm 53, warm, affectionate, funny, slightly chaotic and blessed with a brain that can turn a perfectly ordinary situation into a 14-part documentary with a dramatic conclusion.

I'm also very open about having significant social anxiety and being neurodivergent. Meeting new people, unfamiliar places and crowded environments can be genuinely difficult for me. I currently can't eat in restaurants, and dating itself scares the absolute life out of me!

So I need someone extremely patient. Someone who understands that trust takes time and that I may need to take things slowly. When I feel completely safe and comfortable with someone, though, I can relax, laugh, be silly and actually enjoy going out and doing things.

And please don't mistake anxiety for weakness.

I'm anxious. I'm not a pushover. 😂

I have opinions, boundaries and a personality of my own, and I'm definitely not looking for someone who thinks being patient means they get to walk all over me. I want someone who respects me, listens to me and lets me be myself.

I'm also menopausal, which means my body's temperature-control system has apparently resigned without giving notice. One minute I'm freezing, the next I'm wondering if it's possible to remove a layer of skin without medical assistance. 😂

I'm overweight too. I'm not going to hide that behind filters, strategic camera angles or photographs taken from three miles away. This is me. I'm looking for someone who likes me, not someone waiting for me to become somebody else.

So what am I actually like?

I'm a YouTuber, and podcaster which means I voluntarily talk to a microphone and then put the evidence on the internet. 😂

I'm fascinated by astrophysics, AI and the universe. I can happily disappear down a rabbit hole wondering about black holes, artificial intelligence or what on earth we're all doing on this tiny planet.

I also absolutely love the paranormal, so ghosts, haunted houses, strange happenings and unexplained mysteries are right up my street.

I'm a Harry Potter fan, love cats, listening to music, chocolate and Prosecco, and have a very healthy appreciation for comedy, sarcasm and dark humour.

I love interesting conversations and random rabbit holes. I can go from discussing the universe to wondering whether ghosts exist without even changing subject properly.

I'm looking for a man, not a "lad" or a "geezer". Someone mature, kind, emotionally aware, honest and confident without being arrogant. Someone who communicates, respects boundaries and doesn't play games.

I'm not looking for someone to fix me or drag me kicking and screaming out of my comfort zone.

I want someone who can say:

"That's okay. We'll take it at your pace."

Because underneath all the anxiety, overthinking and menopausal chaos, I'm really just looking for someone to spend time with.

Someone to talk to, laugh with, watch rubbish television with, have ridiculous conversations with, share a drink with and gradually build something genuine with.

I'm not expecting perfection. God knows I'm not offering it. 😂

I'm looking for kindness, trust, patience, humour and that lovely feeling of being completely comfortable with another person.

If you're the sort of man who reads all of this and thinks, "She's a bit bonkers... but I like her," then...

Hello. 😊

P.S. I make a very good cup of tea. I'm also willing to share my chocolate. Occasionally. Don't get carried away. 😂