About cherrylam

cherrylam is single and is seeking females for friendship or a serious relationship.

Warm hearted, always better-than-in-my-photos cat person with shockingly empty social life - urgently seeking that circle of fun new friends who haven't all long since embraced 'partner / children /dogs /netflix /feeling-old-and-tired' as a fixed life strategy that they're more than content with. Everyone on the planet seems to have long since gone that way, so all the prematurely old-at-heart people in my life are now 'missing presumed tired'.

I like hot sunny days, warm sunny people, roadtrips, stand up comedy gigs, clubbing (albeit only in the right kinds of places) and quieter evenings catching up in good company with nice cheeseburgers on all the good and bad things going on in our lives - and I want to live as much of this as I can while I still can. So I'm here to find fantastic new people - reliable and available ones - to share it all with.

It's worth noting that my favourite movies list features a romcom or two (and I've been known to shed a tear at happy endings in them) among other genres and I enjoy Steps as much as I enjoy Sandstorm on a car playlist and am a strong LGBT ally...in short, I guess this is my way of saying that I'm definitely not one for those who insist on the shaved ape type - 'beards, bants and bad boy blokes'.

Musically I'm house, electroswing (not electro, that's a whole other thing), bits of EDM and bits of things from the mid 90s.

Enjoy dad jokes. Appreciate spelling and grammar done well. Live for long, meaningful hugs and being around nice lovely-on-toast people.

I have a dull but okay day job, so basically I want to fill my evenings and weekends with young, interesting and exciting new friends. I foster cats and kittens in my time outside work (I’m not the type to go on about them though unless you ask, and won’t force you to meet my pets - some here have seemed to presume wrongly that I would…) but human company would be nice too!

Who am I looking for? Warm, smily, huggy, fun-loving, educated, down to earth, humourous, *genuinely* open-minded and open-hearted company - for nights out in bars, pubs, clubs, gigs, roof-down roadtrips and houseparties...as well as quieter nights together just catching up over drinks or seeing a midweek show or film or something like that.

Naturally, if I happen to meet a warm-hearted Miss Right along the way as a result of my searching, then that's also great! South Yorkshire accents melt me a bit, but are no means mandatory.

As you may have picked up already, it's really important to me to find those who make a point of making themselves socially available for such things and the people in their life too. I've had far, far too many years of spending many months trying to get somehow get into the diaries of people who'll then just back out closer to the time for the most dismissive and carefree of reasons - or just "forget" and double-book themselves. I need to find my way back to people (if there any still on this rock...) who'll take less than a year to make social plans *and* will then keep to them. There's got to be *someone* on this planet who can still do that...

Oh, and fluid conversation is great and a lot nicer to go with than single-word responses or the "how r u lol" style. If that's how you roll, then okay - but it's just not my thing I'm afraid! And if we do get talking here and you only like to tell me about yourself one painfully short sentence at a time, it's just not for me as a conversation. Effort is a two-way street...thanks!

I'm looking for someone who believes in the concept of people meeting and just being *nice* to each other, rather than having to subsist only on sarcasm and this hideous concept of "banter" - which seems to have been the way of the world for longer than is nice.

Beyond it being worth quickly noting that if you're in your 60s or 70s, I'd ask you to read my profile and take note that I'm not going to be a great match if you're just really looking for someone to stay in and watch the soaps with (thank you for the attention but I'm hoping I'm doing a good enough job of putting out the right signals about myself up front here), I think the only other thing to mention is that distance is no object to me particularly for the right person (for example, I sometimes travel 80 miles or more for a big night out - but I do know that many on these sites will see further than the end of their road to be more trouble than it's worth when meeting new people) so let's go out and have some good times together!