About mrchatalot

mrchatalot is separated and is seeking females for friendship or a serious relationship.

Well what can I say! I’m Ray

43 and approaching midlife crisis age, where I’ll probably pierce my ears again, don a pair of Healy’s and a leather jacket, dye my hair green. And start talking like they do on the street whilst wearing jeans that make me screech

So roll up roll up, get your chat here, few scratches on the body work! Few paint smears, few dents.

Legs and back arnt great, do tend to grind , click and cease,

Takes a while to warm up, but once I get in to gear I can va va voom, gets from A to B eventually getting back to A is questionable

Should pass a MOT dispite all the mileage, (I’m old) but maybe with a few advisories

No brad Pitt, but that’s why I have the humour in reserve

Looking for the one. Not looking for games or anything like that, not looking for casual at all! I don’t really see the point

I can talk for England , I wear my heart on my sleeve

And I always have a sarcastic comment in wait,

Really honest (just read my profile)

And sometimes I tend to dig a huge hole as I don’t know when to shut up lol.

These dating apps are terrible now days…. So figured I’d try this, everyone just wants to play everybody

It’s all about the swipe culture ,

And people’s inability to have an actual conversation. And the few that can converse or read, tend to vanish quickly

I don’t know what’s going on with the ghost culture but seems to be the way of dating now

Anyway enjoy the read and remember, grey will never go out of fashion as it’s never been In fashion

What do you like most about where you currently live?

Well I love the beach. great night life, it’s England haha (I’ve been away to long)

Since 2009 I’ve bounced about wales. America then back to wales . So it’s nice to be back home

As the Welsh didn’t really take to me

Beautiful country tho

What do you enjoy most about your current job?

Payday? Is that a acceptable answer? lol it’s a job

I’m a security guard. Has risks. But don’t all jobs?

At the end of the day it pays the bills and contributes towards the tax man’s golden toilet seat

Usually work nights, but I honestly do venture out onto day shift on occasion. I do work alot but that can be changed if I meet someone. I only work as I’m on my own

What are your favourite leisure activities?

I like reading, I like cooking, i absolutely love theme parks (not done a uk one in 20 years tho) lol

And dating is definitely a rollercoaster wow days.

I love diy. Which is strange as never used to, untill I became a handy man in America.

Love walks. Listening to music (the old stuff) that’s real music … unlike today’s madness

True crime

And a good documentary

I’m showing my age I know

Grow old gracefully I say

Munching Jaffa cakes is also a hobbie

And drinking lots of coffee, my blood type is IB positive I’m caffeine type

Where in the world are your favourite places?

I don’t exactly have favorite places

I like peace and quiet and that can be found in alot of places…

Nice countryside retreat in a just the ticket

You don’t have to go global for that

But if you ever get the chance, visit, lake arrowhead, crestline and running springs in the San Bernardino mountains in California

Absolutely beautiful! Way more beautiful than wales.. upto 6500ft above sea level. Was a beautiful way to live

Where in the world would you love to visit?

I’d like to explore Europe

And I don’t mean the major tourist destinations

I’d be happy to see the smaller towns and villages as I believe they are the best experiences

What would you do on an ideal date?

Ideal date would be one where they were completely comfortable, in a pub or whatever having a drink in a public place and having a good chat…

And that’s it , as the key to a good date is relaxing and you can’t do that if your not comfortable

Good conversation and that’s it. No going back to each others places. Leave it as it is. And see if you get another date

What are you looking for in a partner?

I’m just looking for someone who doesn’t play games , who is a good communicator and not the master ghoster, good personality and that’s it

Communication is key, looks are unimportant, or is location , my exe wife was in America so hardly a issue jumping on a train for me

What makes a good relationship?

As I just said above communication is key

Honesty

Loyalty

What makes you laugh?

Dating today it’s a minefield lol, what with people bouncing from one person to another, the ghosting , not knowing what they want etc

And I make myself laugh lol it’s bad I know

What music do you like?

I like golden oldies 60s-80s they don’t make music like that any more

Also tame impala

What has been the highlight of your life so far?

I don’t think I have one if I’m completely honest

A lot of people would say their kids, but my son and our situation is your typical situation,

But I’m glad I had him. But I didn’t raise him, his mum did and I can’t take the credit there

So highlight? I’d say surging the madness that is life

What are you looking forward to in the future?

My retirement, however with the age keep being raised I might not make it lol but maybe that’s the plan for us all

Things you should know!

These are important things about me , any questions feel free to ask

-I’m seperated and the divorce is way under way (I filed)

- I’ve been single and separated 2 and half years so I’m a little out of practice

-I DONT bed hop! If I’m in I’m in! really old fashioned

-honesty is imporant

-I hate cutting my hair and shaving lol

- I do have a few issues from past trauma that do make me get offended or defensive but it’s a work in progress

-I really hate not being able to not have my say on things

I met a great girl recently, I mean restored my faith in humanity, and I won’t have a bad word said about her, but she didn’t like me getting defensive (I wasn’t violent) but that’s fine. So that didn’t work out, she met someone else a few days later and I’m so happy for her. We just wasn’t to be.

- I’m not looking for casual, I’m looking for a relationship as I’m tired being on my own now. (Sounds desperate) but honesty is best!

I’m just looking for my bestie, someone I can chat with, banter with (and damn I can banter)

Someone I can actually care about

- pineapple on pizza is wrong on so many levels

-never ever eat pears they make your chin get all mushy

-I’m a westham fan

- looking for people around 45+ I don’t seem to get on with women younger lol

- spontaneous meets after a day or two of chatting don’t work lol…

-I don’t drive but have no issues travelling

Currently commuting between Merthyr Tydfil and Weston super mare moving my stuff.

I like this website. With its filters

Apparently my pictures do me no justice

I use humour for most things

I do tend to stutter

I’m a soft touch

Don’t get on with my family

It’s just me, no drama

I think that’s about it lol

Sorry for the essay but if you fancy a chat, feel free to send a message I’ll always reply