About Firststeps

Firststeps is married and is seeking females for friendship or a casual relationship.

Hello potential new friend,

The smartest people read profiles .. Why ? It saves time in the long run.Starting chatting without doing so , only to find out that “i wouldn’t have spoken to you had I known…(what was in the profile anyway)” seems silly .. ( especially if the profile is honest and upfront)

So… I am capable of reading a recipe and cooking/remembering to put the loo seat down for you but I still like an occasional beer and watch football . . I watch Strictly now and then too and I would love it if someone could teach ME to dance. I am a bit of a mix of things. ..also a little shy to start with but can chat for England when past any nerves.

My location? Southern Hampshire… it’s only an hour and a bit to get there though so I love to go to London . It is a great city for visitors ( music, sport, theatre, history, museums, comedy, architecture and art galleries etc). . I mostly go solo to London based things and am fine with that but wandering around a bit and having a laugh with someone while experiencing them together, or having a coffee during the times in between the various activities I am rushing to and from might make them even more enjoyable, so anyone in London, or who enjoys occasional visits there feel free to respond, just as much as anyone local.

What am I looking for? Good question! Friendship is a non negotiable starting point and whilst I am NOT looking for 24/7 or anything permanent, I am not looking for one offs either. Even if I see them on just an occasional/infrequent basis, I want to keep friendships going once made. Distance might limit the frequency of ‘ in person’ meetings but chat has no geographical boundary limits, can be done at any time and has potential for laughs, careful thought and even a bit of flirty banter . I guess I am looking for a ‘serious friendship’ , at least as a starting point. i always take the view that friendship IS a benefit in itself .

When considering friendship i don’t think about age, shape, colour, income, relationship status or disabilities . I think about humour, attitude, self awareness, intelligence and ability to make me laugh or think. If you can (or want to) banter; if you can be playfully silly; if you love comedy, if you still have an inner child and jump puddles, if you are capable of discussing ‘serious’ stuff as well as weird and wacky, if it gives you a secret inner smile knowing that you might be capable of disrupting my hormonal equilibrium then it is quite likely that i am going to be interested and/or we might get on. If you have one, or love dogs, we are likely to have at least one common interest . Other stuff I occasionally indulge in? Cinema, going to the gym , live music, swimming, theatre , mooching around art galleries and anything that keeps my brain active. I try to help with that last thing by playing online Scrabble iand doing puzzles.

The idea of a gal pal with whom some ( or all) of chat/banter, flirting , giggly teasing and taking the hiss ( typo) out of each other can take place, not necessarily all on the same day , but in and amongst regular or ‘serious’ conversation, sounds nice. It isn’t essential but I am not averse to the idea of touch if it suits both.. However .. despite my status.. it’s been a very long time 😪.

Health considerations and having to acknowledge the fragility of life and its uncertainties are partly responsible for this profile so I am trying to ‘ carpe diem, carpe noctum, carpe omnia ! ’ a little more. Life is a one way ride.

Some but not all might understand my reasons for creating a profile (feel free to ask) but if you are looking to develop new interests and perhaps adding occasional male company to do stuff with, or even perhaps to make a new ‘ boy pal’ chat buddy if we are too far apart to ever meet, drop me a line. A quick chat will soon establish if there is any click potential.

Have fun whether i hear from you or not ( I hope I might)