About CalmAfterStorms

CalmAfterStorms is divorced and is seeking males for friendship or a serious relationship.

SOCIAL WORKER ONLY — MANCHESTER OR VERY NEARBY

Putting that first because some of you clearly don't bloody read 😂

Im Charlie. 42. Manchester.

Im looking for a single male social worker.

And yes I mean an actual social worker 😂

Manchester or VERY nearby.

Trauma informed would be a bonus.

Nothing against anyone else. I just know what I want.

Ive spent hundreds of hours this last year learning about trauma, attachment, safeguarding, emotional safety and social work.

Im trying to become a social worker myself now.

So yeah id like someone who gets that world.

Right before you message me 😂

Around 37-47 ish.

Might go a bit older for the right person.

Taller than me. Im 5'9" so ideally 5'10"+ 😂

Must drive.

Non smoker.

No drugs.

Good hygiene. Please 😂

Take some pride in yourself.

And actually bloody single.

And you need to have been single at least a year.

Ive been on my own nearly 4 years.

So no I don't want someone who split up 8 weeks ago and is now "ready to meet someone."

You're probably not 😂

I don't want to be your rebound.

I don't want to hear every day about your ex.

I don't want to be the woman you use to work out whether you're over the last one.

Have some time on your own first.

Know who you are on your own.

Know what you actually want.

Then come find me 😂

At least a year single.

Not "we split up months ago but still live together."

Not separated.

Not its complicated.

Not "technically single."

SINGLE.

Recent photos as well.

Recent means recent 😂

Not your best photo from 2011 that you've refused to let die.

Im not looking for casual sex.

Friends with benefits.

Situationships.

Married men.

Players.

Or someone who wants a pen pal.

I want a relationship.

A proper one.

I have two daughters and they're my world.

They come first.

Always.

Id still love more children one day.

Id love a big loving family eventually.

Nothing fancy.

Just happy.

Safe.

Loads of laughing.

Kids running around.

Someone beside me who actually wants to be there.

Thats it really.

Im loyal.

Caring.

Affectionate.

Probably a bit of a pain in the arse sometimes 😂

Money doesn't impress me.

Cars don't impress me.

Job titles don't impress me.

Yes I KNOW ive just demanded a social worker 😂

Its not because I think social workers are somehow better than everyone else.

I just think id have more in common with one.

I want kind.

Funny.

Loyal.

Honest.

Affectionate.

Patient.

And PLEASE be able to communicate.

If ive pissed you off tell me.

If you're having a shit day tell me.

If you need space tell me.

Just bloody talk 😂

Don't disappear for 3 days then pop back up with "hey stranger."

You are the stranger. You disappeared 😂

I love road trips.

Random days out.

Walks.

Music.

Films.

Cosy nights.

Getting in the car and ending up god knows where.

Proper conversations.

Taking the piss out of each other.

Laughing at stupid stuff.

And doing absolutely nothing sometimes.

I like little things.

Did you get home alright?

Saw this and thought of you.

Remembering something stupid I told you 3 weeks ago.

Making a brew without asking.

Being there when things are shit.

That means more to me than someone flashing money around.

Im really passionate about childrens social care, safeguarding and trauma informed practice.

And no I don't want you coming home from work and doing a bloody assessment on me 😂

I just want someone who understands why things like trust, attachment, boundaries, communication and emotional safety matter.

Im not perfect.

Don't want perfect.

Perfect would probably do my head in anyway 😂

I want a decent man.

Someone emotionally available.

Someone whos actually ready.

Someone who wants a relationship.

Someone who wants a family.

Someone who can be my best mate as well as my partner.

And LOCAL.

Manchester or very nearby.

Im not packing sandwiches and checking motorway traffic every time I want a cuddle 😂

So...

Social worker.

Single AT LEAST a year.

Local.

Around my age.

Ideally 5'10"+.

Drives.

Recent photos.

Actually wants a relationship.

If thats you come say hello.

But give me more than "hi gorgeous" 😂

Tell me who you are.

And if we get on lets just have a coffee.

Im not spending 3 weeks interviewing you through my phone 😂

What do you enjoy most about your current job?

At the moment I'm focused on being a mum and continuing my own personal growth.

I'm fascinated by psychology, trauma and how people think, and I enjoy learning new things every day.

What are your favourite leisure activities?

I enjoy quiet places where you can actually have a conversation – countryside walks, cosy cafés, nature, and anywhere calm.

I'm not a fan of noisy clubs or big crowds.

I like taking my time getting to know someone.
The best connections grow naturally, without pressure.

Trust, kindness and patience matter a lot to me, and with the right person I can happily spend hours talking, laughing and just enjoying each other's company.

What would you do on an ideal date?

My ideal date isn't expensive or over the top. I'd rather go somewhere quiet where we can actually talk.

A cosy café, a countryside walk, a drive with good music, or a meal somewhere neither of us has to shout across the table.

If we're laughing, the conversation flows naturally and neither of us wants the day to end, that's pretty much perfect.

The person matters far more than the place.

What are you looking for in a partner?

I'm looking for someone who's genuine.

Someone who says what they mean, keeps their word and treats people with kindness. I like a man who's calm, has a good sense of humour and doesn't play games.

I don't expect anyone to be perfect, because I'm not either. I just want someone who's emotionally available, enjoys family life and wants to build something real.

If we can talk for hours, laugh at silly things, enjoy comfortable silence and always have each other's backs, that's the kind of relationship I'm hoping to find.

What makes a good relationship?

A good relationship is built on trust, honesty and consistency.

I don't need grand gestures or drama. I value kindness, patience and someone whose words match their actions.

I like relationships where we can laugh together, enjoy comfortable silence, and both feel safe being ourselves.
I believe the best relationships grow steadily, with mutual respect, affection and knowing you've got each other's back.

What music do you like?

Music's always on in my house.

I love Celine Dion, Sarah McLachlan, Enya, Fleetwood Mac, Bryan Adams, and loads of 80s and 90s music.

You'll usually find me with a flat white in my hand, singing along while I'm making a coffee. I might not know all the words, but that never stops me.

I'm always happy to discover new music too.

What are you looking forward to in the future?

I'm looking forward to a life that's peaceful rather than stressful.

I'd love to meet someone I can trust completely, where we both feel safe to be ourselves and don't have to pretend to be anyone else.

I hope for a relationship built on kindness, honesty and consistency, where we look after each other, laugh together and enjoy the little things.

I'm excited for quiet weekends away, long conversations, making memories with my girls, and finding someone who brings calm instead of chaos.

Life has taught me what really matters, and now I'm looking forward to building something genuine with the right person.

To The People Who Work In Safeguarding And Still Feel Human

I love meaningful conversations. If you work in social work, safeguarding, care, psychology or another helping profession, we'll probably have plenty to talk about.

I'm fascinated by how people think, how trauma affects us, and how kindness and understanding can change lives.

I'm not looking for debates or arguments—just honest conversations with someone who's curious, compassionate and open-minded.