About CalmAfterStorms

CalmAfterStorms is divorced and is seeking males for friendship or a serious relationship.

Before you get to know me, here's a few things that are important to me...

Manchester or very nearby only.

I'm looking for a trauma-informed social worker who lives locally. If you live miles away, we're probably not the right match.

If you're not a social worker, I'm probably not the right person for you. That's nothing against other professions. It's just that over the last year I've spent hundreds of hours learning about trauma, attachment, safeguarding and emotional safety. It's changed the way I see relationships, and I think I'd have the most in common with someone who already understands those things.

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- Recent photos only, please. No photos no reply.
- Aged 37–47 (I may consider slightly older if you're the right person).
- Taller than me (I'm 5'9").
- Must drive.
- Take pride in your appearance and have good personal hygiene.
- Non-smoker and no drug users.
- Single, emotionally available and looking for a long-term relationship.

I'm not looking for casual dating, situationships, friends with benefits, players, time wasters or endless messaging.

Hi, I'm Charlie, 42, from Manchester.

I'm looking for someone who's kind, honest, loyal and knows what he wants.

The last few years have changed me. I've spent a lot of time learning about trauma, attachment and emotional safety, and it's made me realise that kindness, patience, honesty and good communication matter far more to me than money or status.

For me, the best relationships are built on trust, friendship and being able to talk about anything. I want to be with someone I can just be myself around.

I have two daughters who are my world, so family will always come first. I'd love to build a happy, loving future with someone who understands that.

I'm loyal, caring and affectionate, and I think it's the little things that matter most. Checking in on each other, having a laugh together and being there when life gets tough.

I enjoy road trips, days out, walks, cosy nights in, music, films and good conversations. I'd rather be out doing something together than sitting on my phone all day.

I'm passionate about children's social care, safeguarding and trauma-informed practice. The more I've learned, the more respect I've got for social workers and what they deal with every day.

That's why I'm looking for a trauma-informed social worker from Manchester or nearby. I just think we'd understand each other better. Being local is important too because I'd rather build a proper relationship than try to make long distance work.

I'm mainly looking for someone around my own age, although I wouldn't rule out someone a bit older if he was the right person. I'd still like the chance to have more children, and I'd love my girls to grow up with a big, loving family around them.

I'm not expecting perfection. I'm just looking for someone who's genuine, emotionally available and wants the same things I do.

If that sounds like you, I'd love to hear from you. Tell me a bit about yourself and send a few recent photos.

If we get on, I'd much rather meet for a coffee than spend weeks messaging.

What do you enjoy most about your current job?

At the moment I'm focused on being a mum and continuing my own personal growth.

I'm fascinated by psychology, trauma and how people think, and I enjoy learning new things every day.

What are your favourite leisure activities?

I enjoy quiet places where you can actually have a conversation – countryside walks, cosy cafés, nature, and anywhere calm.

I'm not a fan of noisy clubs or big crowds.

I like taking my time getting to know someone.
The best connections grow naturally, without pressure.

Trust, kindness and patience matter a lot to me, and with the right person I can happily spend hours talking, laughing and just enjoying each other's company.

What would you do on an ideal date?

My ideal date isn't expensive or over the top. I'd rather go somewhere quiet where we can actually talk.

A cosy café, a countryside walk, a drive with good music, or a meal somewhere neither of us has to shout across the table.

If we're laughing, the conversation flows naturally and neither of us wants the day to end, that's pretty much perfect.

The person matters far more than the place.

What are you looking for in a partner?

I'm looking for someone who's genuine.

Someone who says what they mean, keeps their word and treats people with kindness. I like a man who's calm, has a good sense of humour and doesn't play games.

I don't expect anyone to be perfect, because I'm not either. I just want someone who's emotionally available, enjoys family life and wants to build something real.

If we can talk for hours, laugh at silly things, enjoy comfortable silence and always have each other's backs, that's the kind of relationship I'm hoping to find.

What makes a good relationship?

A good relationship is built on trust, honesty and consistency.

I don't need grand gestures or drama. I value kindness, patience and someone whose words match their actions.

I like relationships where we can laugh together, enjoy comfortable silence, and both feel safe being ourselves.
I believe the best relationships grow steadily, with mutual respect, affection and knowing you've got each other's back.

What music do you like?

Music's always on in my house.

I love Celine Dion, Sarah McLachlan, Enya, Fleetwood Mac, Bryan Adams, and loads of 80s and 90s music.

You'll usually find me with a flat white in my hand, singing along while I'm making a coffee. I might not know all the words, but that never stops me.

I'm always happy to discover new music too.

What are you looking forward to in the future?

I'm looking forward to a life that's peaceful rather than stressful.

I'd love to meet someone I can trust completely, where we both feel safe to be ourselves and don't have to pretend to be anyone else.

I hope for a relationship built on kindness, honesty and consistency, where we look after each other, laugh together and enjoy the little things.

I'm excited for quiet weekends away, long conversations, making memories with my girls, and finding someone who brings calm instead of chaos.

Life has taught me what really matters, and now I'm looking forward to building something genuine with the right person.

To The People Who Work In Safeguarding And Still Feel Human

I love meaningful conversations. If you work in social work, safeguarding, care, psychology or another helping profession, we'll probably have plenty to talk about.

I'm fascinated by how people think, how trauma affects us, and how kindness and understanding can change lives.

I'm not looking for debates or arguments—just honest conversations with someone who's curious, compassionate and open-minded.