About Mindovermatter

Mindovermatter is separated and is seeking females for a casual relationship.

I’ve learned that desire often lives in the unhurried moments — in the comfort of being with someone who knows how to slow things down, and values connection that feels quietly intimate.

Late‑40s, degree‑educated, well‑mannered, grounded. I’m steady on the surface and quietly alive underneath. Friends describe me as thoughtful, observant, and a little more mischievous than first impressions suggest.

I care about how life feels when it’s allowed to breathe: evenings that aren’t rushed, weekends with space to wander, and conversations that don’t need filling. I keep perspective through work I value and people I quietly support.

I have a fondness for restoring forgotten things — a typewriter from a skip, a record player with stories left in it. I work carefully, paying attention to small details, and bring them back to life. There’s something intimate in that process, and most women notice.

I’m drawn to women who feel deeply — capable, nurturing, quietly sensual. Especially those who’ve spent years being the reliable one. If you’re used to carrying the mental load, you may enjoy what it feels like when a man notices before you ask, makes small decisions with ease, and guides a moment naturally — pouring the wine, choosing the music, drawing you closer when it feels right. Not taking over; simply letting you rest.

Sundays are unhurried: coffee drifting through the house, bare feet on the kitchen floor, and conversation that moves from playful to revealing. Sometimes it’s a market and flowers for the table. Sometimes it’s two glasses of wine, a film left unfinished, and the quiet knowledge there’s nowhere else to be.

I don’t believe in saying everything upfront. The most interesting moments reveal themselves slowly — usually over a second glass, when the evening decides to change its mind.

If this leaves you curious rather than certain, that’s deliberate. The rest is better discovered in person.