About JulianaS

JulianaS is single and is seeking males for a serious relationship.

Apparently I'm one of the wild ones, flawed and a bit strange, yet delightful (modest, too :)) - they call us 'sigma' these days... that's pseudo-science bs, but at least they don't burn us at the stake anymore :) I do tend to go opposite ways to the crowd, though, and that makes me selective - a sort of a popular loner... might be the girl your mum warned you about... might be the one she never knew could exist... a polarising geek with social skills... and street smart nerd... who might be a bit of a bad arse sometimes and a softie chasing pretty sunsets other times... I am many things... yet definitely a lot less the usual needy princess, basic doll, dedicated mummy, manicure expert or desperate housewife :) I own myself, am resilient, supportive, exclusive, loyal beyond repair and quite like to be a safe haven... but I may need and want the same on occasion.

Family orientation bores me to death, so if you're after freshly baked cookies, half-term adventures, family dinners and grocery shopping together, it ain't me. I find the typical domestication, conformity and parental brain rewiring quite unattractive (not that they are, I just find them so). This makes me incompatible with parents of any children age...

Nonetheless, I'm not interested in adding up mileage either... nothing wrong with it, but not my thing. Casual's not 'fun' to me... and you can't compare the performance of someone using you as a placeholder under any aspect to the performance of someone who's emotionally invested... plus I don't want 'fun', I want 'ecstatic' :P

Last one - age is indeed just a number, but I quite like numbers myself and find them to be very important. And "age is just a number" is a numb mind platitude, not an argument. Can you imagine someone dropping their standard to accommodate an individual who's arguing said standard using platitudes? I can't.
Also, unless you're filthy rich and willing to adopt me (paperwork and all), I'm not looking for a dad, thank you.

...and the rest, of course, falls on the lines of 'to define is to limit'.

...so tell me about you - Are you the same kind of bad as me? Have you been living your life on your own terms? Can you "see the world in all its tainted glory, and still love it"? What makes you a match / special to me? Can you forget the noise and see what's not being said? Are you good at being alone? How do you 'fix' a bad day? Do people feel like what you bring to the table is mesmerising? What's your favourite song/s and why? How good are you with metaphors? Are you aware that verbs and possessive adjectives are not interchangeable? Can you ditch the small talk? Are you going to read the rest? (no, there are no medals for that - it's just to tell the ones who read the book from the ones who only look at the piccies ;))...

What do you like most about where you currently live?

It's peaceful and quiet and quite green. Not a fan of big cities (anymore).

What do you enjoy most about your current job?

It's... oh, well, niche, something I love doing, interesting, impactful, motivating, challenging, rewarding... with the added bonus that I work from home \m/ \m/ \m/

What are your favourite leisure activities?

Gardening, walking, deciphering the world with my best friend and mentor, travelling to fun exotic places, reading, long drives with the music on, crafting, gardening, road trips, researching random nerdy topics, design shows, self-improvement, watching YouTube documentaries and tutorials, spa, chats over drinks with friends, drawing and painting, DIY, gardening...

Where in the world are your favourite places?

In my garden, but my answer must be at least 20 characters so I wrote this, too.

Where in the world would you love to visit?

There's not enough space here to write them all, I'm afraid... the world is huge... but limited, so I'm also hoping I'm still alive when affordable trips to the Moon come around.

What would you do on an ideal date?

I can't do dates for starters, I prefer to just go out... and my ideal 'date' is more about how being in the company of the other person would make me feel, than about any setup. Dates with candles and violins are beyond corny - ewww. I'd rather you forget all you've been told by movies about what women like.
If I get to laugh a lot, get lost in meaningful conversation, feel like I'm slowly falling in love and get a sense that my company, time and attention are valued, that will do it for me, don't care about the context and surroundings...

What are you looking for in a partner?

Apparently it's a pretty face that always gets me for some reason. And being on good terms with the barber and dentist :') But that's superficial, so I came up with a long list which in short is I want someone who preferably has a pair (I don't mean a mate), is determined, intentional and can meet me on the same level under (most of) all aspects - freedom and independence, status, personality, emotional maturity and immature humour, strength of character, core values, age, lifestyle... without being arrogant, I want what I bring and can offer. Don't want more, don't want less. Tough shot when in your 40s, but it's either that or I'm just fine on my own.

What makes a good relationship?

Chemistry, compatibility (read this one again, please), interdependence and will, because chemistry brings up the attraction, compatibility the connection, interdependence the attachment, but it's the sheer mutual willingness from the both (three, four...? :P) sides to do what it takes to maintain that relationship that's actually making it work.

What makes you laugh?

Life, people who block you for not replying (the logic of blocking someone because they completely ignored you is an insult to evolution :))), good come-backs, sassiness, witty remarks, double entendre, sometimes crude jokes and innuendos, self-deprecating jokes, people who take themselves too seriously and their fragile egos, awkward situations...

What music do you like?

All sorts... I'm eclectic... with a strong touch of darkness :)

What has been the highlight of your life so far?

Je ne sais pas - understanding that bragging about yourself is in reaaally baaad taste? It's all "by standing on the shoulders of giants" and YouTube tutorials.
...but I can pull a pint and learned how to make an omelette, though am still unable to spell it most of the times. And I can safely and easily drive in heels, but don't, because it ruins the shoes.

What are you looking forward to in the future?

Spring in my garden, an upcoming holiday in Havana, 'distracted driver' cameras on roads, JOKER 2: Folie a Deux, getting my chartership, a rollecoaster ride and a love that makes me feel like home... or breaks my heart and boosts my weight loss...

The fine print

I am not here to educate fully grown men. I respect you all enough to assume that by now you would know how things go with approaching, connecting with and/or dating people... and if you don't... well, that is your problem ~\_(:/)_/~.

At this point we're complete strangers with no obligation to interact and as such no, you're not entitled to a reply. Yet if you wrote something nice and intelligent to me and never heard back, just know that I apologise, I find no joy in being dismissive and/or disrespectful, it's only because I'm after someone and something quite specific, nearly impossible to get and within reach. And I've got message filters on, too.
...or because I've been asked at least 5 times about my day and/or week-end today or it's yet another cheap compliment. I am not here for validation at all and slavish small talk, "hi how r u" messages and lack of authenticity just don't get through to me :))) It's best if I don't reply, trust me, but I still apologise to you small talkers, too, even if I know you didn't bother to read all the way down to here :D