I'm looking for a 'SWEET' woman - someone who, when they open their front door to me, has a beaming smile on their face and throws their arms around me and gives me a hug and a kiss. And when we're sitting on the sofa together, she also pro-actively gives me a cuddle every so often, rather than being solely preoccupied with Facebook...
Or am I just an old-fashioned romantic?
Women are so difficult to fathom, that I find myself asking: "For what reason does a woman actually want a man anyway? (It seems I have been browbeaten into believing that men are a redundant quantity nowadays)
Is it perhaps just to get some respite from cattyness amongst a woman's circle of female friends?!?"
Any enlightening answers appreciated. :-)
I know that fundamentally I want a serious relationship and true true love, but despite this age of internet dating, that perfect partner is still very difficult to find, and it can be a bit exasperating.
This has resulted in a parallel philosophy: There's not many folk without SOME bit of debilitation or other by the time they're 75, and I've seen too many people unexpectedly pop-off at age 56-60, so at this point in life I also think time is quite precious so there isn't much point in standing-on-ceremony, so for example if two mature adults feel like, well, "a little intimacy", what the heck - go for it: We should all grasp enjoyment where we can, should we not?
I hope that doesn't offend anybody's sensibilities: I must stress that it's certainly NOT a deliberate goal; just a philosophy I find I seem to have arrived at.
Until recently I had a rather nice salary, but the company closed and I got made redundant, so I'm currently having to watch the pennies for the moment, so any dates could not be extravagant (Don't worry though: I'm not seeking to borrow any money!) My business is growing though, and next year is looking more comfortable.
I currently have a lightweight beard and yes it's grey, but you know what - beards can always be shaved off if necessary! ;-)
Am I romantic? Probably a lot more than I realise. I can sometimes be a bit shy at first, but I'm very gregarious once I'm comfortable with people.
I'm tactile and tender and can be a silly nostalgic: On a rainy Sunday afternoon I love to cuddle together on the sofa while watching a classic (quite possibly black & white) movie.
I don't necessarily need dramatic exciting activities: If you're the right person, I'm simply content to be in your company.
That said, I enjoy a good boogie to some bangin' choons, and if you light my touchpaper you'd better be prepared for some strong passion...
What do you like most about where you currently live?
The beautiful scenery,
and relatively low murder-rate.
What do you enjoy most about your current job?
Being able to help the elderly and infirm.
What are your favourite leisure activities?
Country or seaside walks, cycling, dancing, badminton, singing, playing in a rubbish pop group, classic cars, AmDram, theatre, movies, tearooms, laughing, loving. Lots of loving.
Where in the world are your favourite places?
I'm not terribly well-travelled, though I have been to various parts of the world. But were any my 'favourite'? Presumably not, if I'm having to ponder about it.
But a beautiful part of the UK is still beautiful, isn't it.
(As long as it's not swamped with tourists!)
Where in the world would you love to visit?
Singapore, Hawaii, maybe Denmark, and probably Rome and Paris. Rhyl.
What would you do on an ideal date?
1st date probably just chat over a coffee or a drink.
Ideal date maybe a country walk adjacent to some water (sea/estuary/river/canal),
then a light meal in a quiet pub, watching the sun go down,
then chat with wine/coffee on a sofa.
What are you looking for in a partner?
A sunny disposition! A lovely lovely smile.
Funny - makes me laugh.
Tactile, and takes the initiative half the time.
Can bring me out of my shell.
Not skinny, not too overweight. (No offence intended, just being honest. To balance that, I'm no good if you absolutely demand 'tall'.)
Straightforward - not 'high maintenance'.
Intelligent and cultured and enjoys satirical comedy.
Oh, and sorry but I cannot stand 'Australian Query Intonation', or people who start every response with "So". Arrggh!!
I'm also sickened hearing people sound an 'h' between 's' and 't', as in "shtrength", "shtupid", "shtudent" etc etc. :-(
I find 'wokeness' and Political Correctness pathetic and nauseating. And societally damaging.
What makes a good relationship?
Men and women ARE pretty much from mars and venus, and the difficulty of being able to fully grasp the other's interpretation of any given 'thing' can often lead to unintended fallouts which cloud the relationship, when ironically there was likely no need for the fallout to have happened, so:
Telling it like it is, so that there are no misunderstandings, and
Complete honesty. But with that comes the necessity to be able to handle the truth!
That's the serious bedrock. Then on top, the other stuff:
Keeping the spark alive: Hugs and cuddles because we both WANT to give a hug and a cuddle :-)
LOTS of laughter.
Passion! Passion that might ebb and flow a little, but never goes away.
Shared interests and time together but also happily-allowing independent time and space.
Recognising each other's needs but not being needy: Instead being genuinely loving.
Proper give and take.
Some people say "compromise", but I've done quite a lot of that in the past and it never seemed to actually do much good: If the relationship is right, there shouldn't be much need of compromise, should there (?)
Both being financially responsible (no, I'm not obsessed, but that IS the biggest cause of argument between long-term couples!)
What makes you laugh?
You -must! TheDailyMash.co.uk, Family Guy, "I'm Sorry I Haven't A Clue", One foot in the grave, Peter Kay, Frasier, Absolutely, Ricky Gervais, The Fast Show, Monty python, Victoria Wood, Wallace and Gromit, Laurel and Hardy, Dave Gorman, but also: Jimmy Carr.
The Far Side cartoons.
I used to like Have I Got News For You, Frankie Boyle, and The News Quiz, but they've all just turned into 'woke' crap now.
What music do you like?
Steve Hackett-era Genesis.
Anything produced by Trevor Horn, stuff that's danceable, 1980s pop, New Musik, Magazine, TalkTalk, Scritti Politti, Tears For Fears,
some 1990s pop and indie, Cocteau Twins, The Sundays,
some more modern stuff; seems I quite like Katy Perry and The Weeknd and Becky Hill.
Swing-Jazz, Glen Miller, Sinatra, Matt Monroe
Classical, if it's not too heavy-going, Rachmaninoff, Debussy, some Chopin.
I'm willing to give ANY music at least one listen..
What has been the highlight of your life so far?
My son, I should think, who seems wise beyond his years (!)
What are you looking forward to in the future?
A new chapter of amazingly wonderous love and fulfilment and being able to make lots of bright happy memories - with you!
Here's a question: If god made everything, who made god?
I'm open to enlightenment, but in the meantime, the follow-on from that is kind of: What are our lives about? And if we're not certain about that either, then is there really anything else to do apart from, while not hurting anyone else, to try, at least, to enjoy what time we have on this earth, before we are struck down with debilitation or death?
And it's not about money, or possessions, and only a few of us achieve leaving an indelible mark on the world, so it's mainly about friendship, love, and passion. On her deathbed, my mother told me to "Just be happy". I'm only sorry that it's taken me so long to gain the full realisation of that and try to put it into action.
- Hair Grey
- Eyes Green
- Height 5' 8" / 173cm
- Weight 11 st 4 lbs / 72kg
- Body type Average
- Glasses Sometimes
- Ethnicity White
- Stance Centre
- Qualifications a degree
- Situation Self Employed
- Income I'd rather not say
- Alcohol Light Drinker
- Smoking Non-smoker
- Diet No Special Diet
- Religion Agnostic, but I don't practice my religion
arts and books and cars and cooking and countryside and cycling and dancing and DIY and family and health and movies and
music—listeningand music—makingand outdoor activities and photography and restaurants and theatre and travel and TV
- Have Yes (not living at home)
- Want I don't want to have more children
- Home I own my home
- Live With Alone