About Afreespirit
Afreespirit is divorced and is seeking males for friendship or a serious relationship.
Carpe Diem!
He who takes the first step, finds the path interesting. . .
This may look longer than the usual profile, but it`s honest...
I am a slim, long haired, non smoking single working lass with a positive outlook on life. I have a sense of humour and I hope you do, too...I have two 6ft plus adult sons who are up and who very occasionally stay with me. Apart from my sons, the only other male in my life is the dog!
I do have a photo - it`s just not public on here due to my job, I really value my home - work boundaries, and privacy - hence no pic. I can txt or email it though, if you have one to send also?
I`m hoping to meet an older, mature, single, reliable, taller, uncomplicated guy with a positive outlook on life, who actually wants and has TIME for a relationship - who has learned from his life experiences, with a sense of fun who looks after himself, as in who definitely is not ill or obese - does not smoke, who also works (like I do - or retired, active and independant, so we are equals) - and like myself - drives. Note, not looking for a well off guy with a Merc or any of that nonsense - just wheels and equality - a guy who is not looking for a mother - that is important. A guy whose kids (if he has any) are like mine - not dependants - and are up - I`ve done my 20 plus years` unpaid labour in parenting, and have my life back - parole for good behaviour, and I don`t really plan to be timeframed all over again by kids for the next 10 years plus! I`m free! Mine are independant - both through uni and working. I like music, live music, films, dining out, and peoplewatching in a cafe, haha! People fascinate me.
Please read this - it is important.
I lead an UNCOMPLICATED, peaceful lifestyle, and relax at home after work - no stress, strops or dramas (yours, your ex`s or mine), and am fit and healthy - and I seek someone who is the same. I`m a real woman, with human traits and faults too, not perfect, and I don`t live online, so not looking for an email penpal, or to be someone`s taxi or free nurse/carer. Someone who is physically able and happy. Ideally a few emails, chat on phone then meet up - see if there`s a spark! If no spark ,hey, no problem - we both got out the house and had a few laughs...
No pressure or obligation either way! I prefer real people, not this online virtual nonsense. Not looking for someone who brings drama to my life. Uncomplicated and reliable is what I seek, just like me - and intelligent enough to have a decent conversation that excludes football, pub,and how expensive a pint is, haha. To make the best of our time together it really is better if we live not miles and miles apart. As I`m 5 ft 6 in my bare feet, before I even put shoes on - I hope to meet a guy who is taller than me, say 5ft8 plus. It does matter to me.. I`m so not into whiskers, or stubble on a guy at all - sorry. Personal preference!
NOT looking for someone who is diabetic, dependent, or who wants me as his present or future carer because he is ill, who thinks he can take me for granted, or is too full on after a few meets and wanting to know my every move! Am a free spirit, and not for that. Control freaks no thanks, or male bunny boilers who claim they "love" me after only a week and need the instant results... Hell, no????
.Not wanting a guy who`s only just split from the ex, not divorced yet guys - nope - that`s unfinished unresolved stuff and being a therapist, ego stroke or stepping stone is not for me!! Not into dogs that she'd loads everywhere... I have a wee beast and he is enough!
Also - just because I have been to university, it does NOT mean that I seek someone else who has - education can broaden the mind but it can also make someone elitist and "up themselves" - we've all met one! Just a happy normal guy - life experience itself is an education and can teach you more than exams...
Better add - as for "unhappily married" / "in a relationship" / "she doesn`t meet my needs now"/ "she`s disabled and can`t", etc guys who need "discreet meets" - crawl along!! Some of us have morals above that of an unspayed alleycat. I`m a one man woman from day one and would never be part of the destruction of someone`s trust in their partner.
What do you like most about where you currently live?
It is quiet, the area I am in. I like the relaxing side of that - the escapism from the rat race.
What do you enjoy most about your current job?
Handing over the keys and the responsibility and going home at the end of the day! It is also why I cannot have my pic on here for all to see - I can send one, tho.
What are your favourite leisure activities?
I like live gigs, a good play, a good meal, the cinema, and best of all - good company. I love peoplewatching, in a cafe, with a cuppy in hand. A fish supper, with pickled onions and good company down by the harbour with a friend is time well spent. Done that a few times. Someone else`s chips smell fantastic when you`re in the queue! It`s great to catch up with my sons, also. You can never replace quality time with someone...
Where in the world are your favourite places?
My bed - I love long lies! Haven`t been abroad a lot, as I have been bringing my two sons up - priorities! The three of us may go this year though, as it`s been so long.
Where in the world would you love to visit?
Unexplored, non touristy parts of Scotland - St Kilda, Harris, Raasay, all the Isles. I`d love to go, and it would be great to have company!
I`d love to have a campervan - the classic VW style...
What would you do on an ideal date?
Have a good laugh over a few coffees or lunch, and see how we clicked. No pressure on either of us, unlike many women who want longterm commitment after an hour!
What are you looking for in a partner?
What am I looking for?
Firstly, a local guy who is taller than me - I am 5ft6 in bare feet before I put shoes on, so 5ft8 plus please -height does matter to me as I do not want to be taller than a guy. Maybe someone around the Tayside/Angus area? A nonsmoker who is in good health and who works, like me, on days...so we can actually see each other, lol? A sense of humour is vital also - life can be too serious and so can some people - negative outlooks are not me!
Looks are not vital - they do come into it, but I am so not into pretty boys or guys that describe themselves as "very attractive" at all. The beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and the true beauty of a person is in their personality. I prefer a man to look like a man - not like a poser or a gym freak. I value personality, stability in someone`s personality, reliability, a sense of fun, honesty, consideration and affection above all. I also want to meet someone who does not smoke - or wants to quit - I would be very supportive if he did - who works, and is in good health, like myself. Someone the same age as or older than myself - with the same priorities and no complications...
What am I not looking for?
Having said that looks are not the be all and end all, I`m not into guys who don`t bother to shave or make any effort at all with their appearance - I make an effort and expect the same - not talking suits, or perfection etc here, just clean, neat and tidy and no stubble. Some of us women are not desperate! Also not looking for a fantasist - don`t claim to be 6ft if you are 5ft2 or of average build if you are obese. That may eliminate those who "can`t" or refuse to, send a pic, haha!! Someone who is home at night and not working away all the time - I could be ok with the occasional night away, but how can you be in a real relationship with someone who is never there? Time together is a big consideration and priority to me. Also intelligent conversation - men that grunt or cannot hold a decent conversation, are just not my bag, haha!
Due to the nature of my lifetime`s work, which I can discuss later, I want to meet someone who is able, in good health and independant - i seek someone who will be on as similar level as myself for my time free. Someone for whom we enhance - not detract from - each other`s lives?
Please, lol - I`m NOT looking for a guy in his 20`s or 30`s who still wants to have kids - or lessons, haha - i have done my bit for society in my 20 plus years` motherhood, and now seek a mature gent at the same stage/outlook in life as me, whose life is not complicated.
I`d like to also say that although I may have been to uni, I absolutely do not expect a partner to have been also - I value far far more, the way I am treated and time spent together than any education level, in case someone wonders and thinks that I am looking to meet the same...nope...met some real idiots puffed full of themselves and their qualifications - education should broaden the mind, not make one elitist and self obsessed, and a total prat, haha!! We`ve all met one - all ok till they open their mouth and have no idea about real life and living with what it throws at you - I want someone who is down to earth - the best qualifications for a relationship are life experience and learning from it x
What makes a good relationship?
Communication and affection - always talking if there is something that needs addressed builds trust and closeness. Time spent together is vital, and not just at weekends, being able to do things together, yet still be individuals and still feel you miss that person when they are not there, yet feel relaxed as you know you will be together soon. Being able to laugh together, and share classic daft moments...If you are both there to support each other as well as have good times, that makes a relationship - if someone is not supportive when needed, then they are just a good time visitor, and not a partner or soulmate x
What makes you laugh?
The irony of human nature (us humans think we are so smart but apes often behave better - watch any nature programme and see their social behaviour, haha) and some of my and other people`s mistakes - although I would never laugh at someone who was upset.
Billy Connolly films also - that guy is just a hilarious natural as an actor, yet his films have a realism to them - about our human nature...
What music do you like?
Ask me that one. I have a wide taste in music. You`d be surprised...
What has been the highlight of your life so far?
Bringing my sons into the world and seeing how they are doing. Simple as!
What are you looking forward to in the future?
Growing old disgracefully - a friend and I have made a pact to cause havoc if we ever land in a care home!
And escaping from this site - possibly to live with the sociable apes - can you help with either of these? If we get on and want to see more of each other, I won`t sleep in a tree and throw bananas, I promise, haha!!
Appearance
- Hair Auburn / Red
- Eyes Green
- Height 5' 6" / 168cm
- Weight 10 st 7 lbs / 67kg
- Body type Slim
- Glasses Yes
- Ethnicity White
- DisabledNo
Politics
- Stance Wasn't listed as an option
Qualifications
Employment
- Situation Employed
- Sector Wasn't listed as an option
- Income I'd rather not say
Lifestyle
- Alcohol Don't Drink
- Smoking Non-smoker
- Diet No Special Diet
- Religion Atheist
- Interests
antiques and books and cooking and countryside and cycling and dancing and family and health and movies and
music—listening andmusic—making and photography and restaurants and theatre and TV
Children
- Have Yes (sometimes living at home)
- Want I don't want to have more children
Housing
- Home I own my home
- Live With Alone